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As a child, I loved Cinderella. Let’s be honest….I loved all the princess movies! There is always a bad person that tries to harm the beautiful princess but in the end she’s rescued by a prince and they live happily, ever after.
We all grew up believing in these fairy tales. We wanted our prince to rescue us or to be the prince that rescued his lady. And then we fall and love and everything is perfect. There’s no hurt feelings, no issues, just pure bliss.
I don’t know about you, but that’s not my reality! Don Henley was correct when he sung “happily after fails and we’ve been poisoned by these fairy tales” in his song called The End of the Innocence. If we aren’t prepared for this reality before it happens we are left in despair and feeling betrayed. Marriage is a lot of work from both sides. It takes an abundance of grace.
See, you are taking two broken people with two completely different backgrounds and throwing them together to do life. This has been occurring for generation and after generation.
The first marriage was Adam and Eve. We all know the story. This is where sin entered our world and we still see its devastating impact on our lives. Not exactly the way the fairy tales I have seen tell the rest of story.
As I began the process of planning our wedding, I also began to imagine what our life would look like – where we would live, how many kids, where we would vacation, etc. During premarital counseling, we looked back on the lives of our parents, grandparents and even great-grandparents to see any patterns. On reflections like these we are more likely to see the generational sins and patterns and hopefully not repeat them.
I began looking into the lives of my parents and I saw a lot of rejection and hurt . This was also the pattern in their parents’ lives. That’s when it hit me.
It was also a big theme in my own life.
I knew if I didn’t make changes immediately that I would eventually pass on my own brokenness to my children. This cycle will unfortunately continue from generation to generation until someone resolves to break it. The only way to being whole and healthy is to submit your brokenness and disappointments to God and allow His presence to bring about deep lasting change. It gives us freedom to be holy and live wholehearted.
I know you want to experience this in your life and that you need permission to take a leap into this journey. You need a little push and to know that it actually can work for you.
Maybe you need permission to have hope in yourself and in God. Or, belief that change is not only possible but the will of God for your life. Possibly, you need to see how it happened in the life of someone else so that you can know God can be trusted in this process. In 1 Corinthians 13 we read that the three most powerful and enduring forces in in existence are faith, hope and love.
You can have faith that God is able to do abundantly and exceedingly above all that you can ask, think, or even imagine. You can have hope that this journey with God will produce the fruit of the spirit in your life, especially the inner peace that passes all understanding that will guard your heart and mind in Christ Jesus. And you can heed Jesus’ words to love one another as Jesus loves you.
Our prayer for you this week is that you will embrace the message your heart is telling you as you walk with God. Let us know how this is being revealed in your life.
Have a wonderful week!