“For everything there is a season,
a time for every activity under heaven.
2 A time to be born and a time to die.
A time to plant and a time to harvest.
3 A time to kill and a time to heal.
A time to tear down and a time to build up.
4 A time to cry and a time to laugh.
A time to grieve and a time to dance.
5 A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones.
A time to embrace and a time to turn away.
6 A time to search and a time to quit searching.
A time to keep and a time to throw away.
7 A time to tear and a time to mend.
A time to be quiet and a time to speak.
8 A time to love and a time to hate.
A time for war and a time for peace.”
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 (NLT)
The Fox Family is going through some big changes this week. Now, I’m not one to actually like change but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. I like my schedule and routine. Our kids prefer regularity as well. Change is disruptive and creates tension in my life that is usually unwelcome.
Jake and I both made some big decisions this week on how we are going to spend our time. Jake decided to take a new job that will help fine tune his skills for this ministry and allow him more time with his family. I did the opposite. I stepped down from a role that was consuming my life. I am not one to do this normally but I realized my family, my relationships and my life were being negatively affected.
I have a few amazing true friends. These are the friends that are there in the good, the bad and the ugly. These people have seen me at my best and my worst and still love me without judgment. I pray you have this same small tribe in your life. I feel God uses these friends to speak His words into my life. They do not claim to be God at all but what I love most is that I feel like God is saying something to me and then these friends confirm it.
Long story short…I have been in a position that I used to love and felt so true to who God created me to be (I started in a smaller position 4 years ago but leading started 2 years ago). Recently I have allowed this position to consume my life. I have woken up at 4:30AM to work on the many responsibilities so I have time later to spend with my family. One of my friends asked me a question that has stuck with me for the last two weeks. She asked me “Does this position still bring you the joy it once did?” I looked at her and came up with several excuses why that didn’t matter at that moment. But in true God fashion, it didn’t end there. That question stuck with me and I prayed over it for a couple weeks. Then I realized the answer was no. I was not happy. I had no joy. My smile left.
My laugh was gone. Vanished and I didn’t even realize it. WOW! What a “aha” moment for me!!
So quick side note…I believe the wife is the nucleus to any family. I don’t fully believe “if mama ain’t happy nobody’s happy” but I do believe the mom/wife’s attitude is of huge significance to her family especially if she is a stay-at-home mama. When we are consumed by things that aren’t our family, our family feels that. When we no longer have joy then they feel that. And I don’t know about you, but I want my family to feel joy every day of their lives.
We mentioned in our first blog post on this site about our theme of the year. This year it is “gratitude”. I can find gratitude in my day-to-day life but when I’m not living in joy I’m not truly living out gratitude. So that stopped yesterday (Sept 27th). I found my smile today after 8 (yes 8!) full hours of sleep. I was rested, I was patient and I was able to extend grace like I haven’t been able to do in a long time. When you are stretched too thin something has to give and for me it was patience, love, and grace. I’m thankful for new days and do-overs.
As you read this I want you to know I’m praying for you. I want you to know that if you aren’t living a life of joy and gratitude that it is possible and what God wants for you and your family. What can do this week (even if it is very small) to take a step to living this life? Please comment below so we can encourage each other and pray for one another. We are a tribe here and we all want to connect with God and with each other.
Have a wonderful weekend. Please know we are here if you need us.